i've been busy recently, hence the neglect of my poor little blog.
the major event that has happened is that this week i moved in to john and sona's little green house across the river. [i'm still in the process of moving, but i hope to be finished before sunday.]
this is a big deal for me. i'm 39 and i've never lived with a partner before [never mind a stepdaughter]. actually, i've never even discussed living with a partner before. but john and i started talking about living together when our relationship was about six weeks old ... and now it's finally happening.
i'm a little nervous about this change in our lives, but i'm excited too.
i'm looking forward to the three of us being a family, with all the joys and challenges that will bring.
i'm looking forward to not living out of a suitcase, as i have done for the past five years. i'm looking forward to - for the first time in my adult life - having some where to call home.
and now i'd like your help.
if you've commented here 100 times, or if you're a lurker, i'd love to know: what's your best piece of advice for happily co-habiting with a partner?
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thanks so much to every one who left a comment. i loved all of your advice - so wise! - and have written every comment in my journal to read over and ponder. i am still settling in to the new house but it's going fairly smoothly so far. yesterday sona told me i make the house "feel like a home", which i think is the best compliment i've ever had!
unfortunately we've lost our very dodgy internet connection, but we'll be getting a proper, fast internet connection in about 10 days. hooray! right now my only access to the internet is at work, so i may not be blogging again until the new connection is set up.
the major event that has happened is that this week i moved in to john and sona's little green house across the river. [i'm still in the process of moving, but i hope to be finished before sunday.]
this is a big deal for me. i'm 39 and i've never lived with a partner before [never mind a stepdaughter]. actually, i've never even discussed living with a partner before. but john and i started talking about living together when our relationship was about six weeks old ... and now it's finally happening.
i'm a little nervous about this change in our lives, but i'm excited too.
i'm looking forward to the three of us being a family, with all the joys and challenges that will bring.
i'm looking forward to not living out of a suitcase, as i have done for the past five years. i'm looking forward to - for the first time in my adult life - having some where to call home.
and now i'd like your help.
if you've commented here 100 times, or if you're a lurker, i'd love to know: what's your best piece of advice for happily co-habiting with a partner?
+ + + +
thanks so much to every one who left a comment. i loved all of your advice - so wise! - and have written every comment in my journal to read over and ponder. i am still settling in to the new house but it's going fairly smoothly so far. yesterday sona told me i make the house "feel like a home", which i think is the best compliment i've ever had!
unfortunately we've lost our very dodgy internet connection, but we'll be getting a proper, fast internet connection in about 10 days. hooray! right now my only access to the internet is at work, so i may not be blogging again until the new connection is set up.
9 comments:
giving each other the gift of space
as Laotse said, the reality of the building does not consist in roof and walls, but in the space within to be lived in
best of luck to you and hope that you are happy
best advice i can offer is already suggested by Kel - spend time together as a couple, but make sure that you have your own space that is you as well. I'm quite insular sometimes so living with another human can be difficult for me, so definately having that place where you can do your own thing is important
Oh yeah - and to try and accept that people don't always share the same world view
I'd say don't sweat the small stuff, always ensure there is fun and laughter in the house and again keep you'r own individuality and me time combined with some magical couple time to so that you keep the spark going. Enjoy and congrats Mandy.
Speak the truth in love.
Have fun.
When in doubt, take a nap.
In a funk? Turn on Earth, Wind, & Fire's Greatest Hits and get your groove on!
Nourish each other's growth and spirit.
Get over yourself & your 'baggage'.
Keep it simple.
Congratulations on this exciting new chapter!! I'm very happy for you & your blossoming family. :)
1. I agree that having a space of your own may be very important.
2. Failing that, keep one room tidy so you can retreat into it when everything around you is chaotic. You're a cancer and you need a retreat.
3. Very pragmatic advice: Promise yourself that for the first 18 months you will NOT utter the words "OK, that's it, I'm leaving". You've made a commitment, and the first few months are the hardest part of it (as well as the best of it!). You're used to being able to leave. There will be times when you want to get out. So decide that you will not even threaten to do so!
4. Enjoy, enjoy! So glad this new path has opened up for you, favourite sister!
Lisa
Of course, I meant "you're a Cancer(ian)".....!!!! :-)
hi anne-marie, lovely to meet you.
the trick is to sleep in separate beds. yup. it's that simple. but you know, get together when you need to, wink wink!! it's worked for me and the hubs and we've just celebrated our 10th anniversary.
thanks for your comment on my blog...my fellow hawk person. since pixie isn't selling her medicine bundles i'm in the process of creating my own. blue sodalite, angelica, tobacco...
sending you creativity and light, xoxx
space & communication and never lose sight of yourself - you're way too smart for this not to work :)
Don't get stressed if he squeezes the toothpaste tube in the middle.
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